If you want to change something in your life situation you need to begin with changing yourself. That is the only way it can happen. How you experience your life is a reflection of your inner state and that is only what you have control over. Everything else is a result of how you are.
No matter how things look to you the only way to make a change is to first change yourself. When you do, a power from within arises and you will begin to think and act in a new way. That new way instantly changes how things look and it will in time either make things resonate with you or bring change according to your new way of being.
The deeper connection we have with ourselves the greater power we have. A harmonious state is reached when we rest and act from the depth of our being. Then the true essence of life, which is love and harmony, becomes active and alive in us. By coming back home to that, life will begin to reflect back to us what we have found within. It will not only give us a peaceful mind and heart but also the greatest power for change.
Your life experience and situation will continue to be as it is as long as you stay the same. To bring about change you need to change first and then life will follow along with you on your new path.
It all begins with you.